Facing the Truth: My Husband is a Molester. Now what?

As you’ve been traveling along on this journey with me, you know this path has not been an easy one. It took years and years for the truth about the double life my husband was living to come to light. And, when the truth was finally disclosed to me, there are no words to adequately explain the emotional trauma that followed.

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The Shattered Wife — When the Truth About Your Husband Becomes Real

In the previous post I talked about why it was so difficult for me to wrap my mind around the fact that I was married to a man who abused children for the entire forty years we were married. The shock. The shame. The craziness of it all was at times almost too much for me to absorb. There were moments when I thought I had lost my mind. While I never went into denial, I did go into a state of deep, traumatizing shock.  Continue reading

Why Was It So Hard to Believe My Husband Molested Children?

Why? How? When? I thought I knew my husband! These are all of the things that go through a wife’s head when she finds out “for certain” that her husband has been molesting children. At least that’s what went through my head initially. And, guess what? It’s now been five years plus some since I’ve known, and there are still times I cry and want to scream, “I can’t believe this! I don’t want to believe this!”  But, I do….I do believe. It’s true. It’s real. The man I shared my life with molested innocent, precious children. And, he did it while married to me. Continue reading

Married to a Pedophile: “How Does a Pedophile Get Caught?”

The interest on my last blog post skyrocketed to well over ten thousand readers!  Why?  Because it’s hard to think that such evil exists, yet the truth is that right now — today — many children are living in the hellish fear and torment of sexual abuse.  I am grateful to every one that reads this blog and shares this information with others.  We must continue to be a voice for our children! 

Many of you emailed me asking, “How do pedophiles get caught?”  In today’s post, I’m going to share with you more of my journey, and fill you in on how the man I was married to for almost forty years got caught.  Continue reading

Married to a Pedophile: A Personal Encounter With Survivors of Sexual Abuse

I’m back after a three month break while finishing up writing my book on finding hope after child loss.  If you know of anyone who has experienced the loss of a child, please  give them a copy of the book.  Part of our mission is to help people who are suffering, and this book will help any parent who is suffering the pain of child loss.

This weekend I had the blessing of attending a conference on child sexual abuse.  I wish I could say that it was enjoyable, but quite the contrary.  While at this conference, I had the opportunity to hear two survivors of child sexual abuse speak out and I must say that upon hearing what they endured as children, and what they are enduring now as adults, I could feel my heart literally breaking.

Child sexual abuse is a pain that no child deserves! To turn a deaf ear and do nothing is, in my opinion, a very grave sin!  Continue reading