Author Archives: Clara Hinton

Married to a Pedophile: The Night of the Break-In!

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If you’ve been following along with my story, you know that by now John and I had been in a rocky marriage for a long time.  Actually, I take that back.  He thought it was a wonderful marriage.  I was the one who was constantly confused, upset, hurt, crying, disillusioned, and often felt like I was a bit on the crazy side.  He was a difficult man to figure out and by now I had all but quit trying!

This particular event I’m going to tell you about took place in the summer.  It was a warm, lovely Friday evening as I remember, and John had been away all week working insurance.  He was running on a super high as he had planned a weekend youth retreat for the church.  Those events always got him charged up.  He was like another person when he was around young people!  That’s when he lit up and came to life!

With me he was quiet, had nothing to say, and would literally fall asleep while I was trying to talk to him.  I honestly believed that the only reason he was married to me was to have someone to keep up with his laundry, take care of the kids, the bills, and all of the household chores, and to have a delicious home-cooked meal ready for him on those occasions when he was home.

Little by little our marriage was dying, and deep within my soul I knew it. Continue reading →

Married to a Pedophile: Dottie Sandusky and I Have Lots to Talk About!

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As I watched the interview of Dottie Sandusky for the fourth time, my anger began to diminish and I began feeling so sorry for her.  I listened to her every word.  I listened as she stumbled through tears to try so hard to convince Matt Lauer of her husband’s innocence.  She cried saying she was strong.  She said she never called those who came forward with their stories liars.  But she did.  She said she didn’t see anything wrong with Jerry showering with teenage boys, tickling them, and soaping them up.  But, she hesitated at the very end when she said *maybe* there could have been something inappropriate.

Dottie Sandusky is the perfect molester’s wife, just as I was!  Dottie is sitting in the chair that I was sitting in many, many years ago when I didn’t know the truth about my husband.  She loves her husband and she believes whatever he tells her.  She believes him because it’s just too painful, too unreal, too out of the realm of her innocent beliefs to think otherwise.

Jerry Sandusky chose the perfect wife! She took in foster kids.  She stood by her husband’s side while he received accolades for all of the wonderful help he gave to underprivileged kids.  She is a God-fearing, loving, faithful wife, but…..   Continue reading →

Married to a Pedophile: You Can Help Stop Child Molesters!

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Thousands of you are viewing this blog, and you’re asking me every day, “How can I help?”  “I want to do something to keep children safe, but I don’t know where to begin.”

Well, I have a place where your voice can definitely make a difference!  Rather than write my normal blog story right now, I feel and urgency to get this information to you today!  Our help is needed and each of us can truly make a difference!

We know that one of the reasons victims don’t speak out is because they’re afraid that when they do there won’t be help for them.  They fear not being believed.  They fear that people will turn a deaf ear.  And, they fear they’ll be made to feel like it was their fault.

Another reason why victims often don’t speak up soon is because they’ve blocked this trauma in the back of their minds as a form of survival.  Imagine being a small child and having someone come into your room in the middle of night, breathing heavy     Continue reading →

Married to a Pedophile: Son of a Pedophile Speaks Out

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You’ve been hearing from me, the former wife of a pedophile, for several months now. I’ve been telling my story about what it was like being married to a practicing pedophile and not finding out about this “dark side” until after almost forty years of marriage.

I will continue to tell my story and expose more and more of the “red flags” that were present in our marriage from the very day we were married.  This is a difficult thing to talk about — certainly not a pleasurable topic — but the message must get out if we are going to halt these molesters and do all that we can to keep our children safe.

But, what about my children?  They’ve suffered untold grief since finding this out about their dad.  They respected him above anyone else on earth.  He was the father that they were so very proud of — the one that other kids envied.  And, now….he sits in prison for the remainder of his days as a punishment for crimes he committed against many, many children.

My son Jimmy has the very unique position in our family of being the sixth child — making him a middle child.  He also is a minister, but not just any minister.  He is serving at the very same church where his dad served for over thirty years.    Continue reading →

Married to a Pedophile: Loving the Lonely

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Thank you for continuing to read this blog and to take this seriously.  When I first began sharing my story, I wasn’t exactly sure how this would unfold.  Would people get tired of reading this?  Would people think this was made up drama?  Would people turn away and say this is too much?

Thankfully, you’ve stayed.  And, you’ve shared.  And, you’ve opened up.  Many of you have emailed and said, “This is the first time in my life that I’m telling anyone I was sexually abused as a child.”  That’s powerfully healing!!! And, for that I’m so very thankful.  Something that has triggered anger in me, though, is hearing over and over again from the abused about how difficult it is to find a place in this life where there is a feeling of safety, value, and worth.       Continue reading →