Thank you so much to all of my readers and for the thousands who are now sharing this blog. You have no idea how much this means to me! God is using my brokenness to help others who are in the grip of an abusive relationship or who are being physically abused and molested to speak out and break free!!! I believe with all of my heart that together we are making a difference!
Last night I received a message from someone I have never met telling me that she would love to get the courage to speak up about her abuse. Her husband (who will not agree to divorcing her — talk about control!) continues to harass her and bully her children and unfortunately we do not have laws to help innocent victims such as these until something more horrible is done. And, even then, our laws are so weak that it’s difficult to prove abuse in a court of law. That, to me, has got to stop!
I encouraged this lady to write something — anything — and by writing it would dilute the power this man holds over her and give her some empowerment.
Through tears, I’m sharing with you that she got the courage to write a blog post. She said, “I have no followers. I must remain anonymous for fear of what he will do, but I was inspired to write this.”
I’m so proud of her for gaining a bit of strength. She’s gained just a wee bit of freedom. And, she did something!
Here is what she wrote with the link back to her site.
Clara Hinton – a modern day Heroine
“For the past few months I have been avidly following the blog of Clara Hinton – Married to a Pedophile. And although I have never met Clara in person, I am so in awe and inspired by her courage and spirit. She is also an amazing mother to eleven children – her son Chris, described her as a saint! She also has lots more grand children. Over the years, Clara suffered terrible psychological abuse at the hands of her preacher/pedophile husband, John. At the same time, he led a secret life which involved sexually abusing children in his parish (and community). Clara’s abuse lasted for around 40 years until she plucked up the courage to leave. Of course that was not the end of the story because controlling, abusive men never just let their wives walk away peacefully or seek a win: win compromise. They just can’t do it and it is really because they are sick and need help! But due to the very nature of this illness, they won’t admit to themselves that they need help and continue to turn on others, usually those who are closest to them.
Clara’s husband was a well respected Preacher and pillar of the society, and no-one initially could believe that he was capable of such hideous behaviour, as his public persona was totally different to his secret, dark side.
Here is the link to Clara’s blog: http://www.findingahealingplace.com
I urge everyone to read Clara’s blog for her own in-depth account. Thankfully, Clara’s husband is safely behind bars now for abusing children so the children are now safe from him. Clara’s family really are an inspiration to society because of their strength of spirit and authenticity. They are now left picking up the pieces of the devastation that has been left behind, but they are doing so in such a dignified and sophisticated manner. Clara & her son Chris’ authenticity have inspired me to try do the same when faced with a really difficult life situation.
As you can see, this story has really got my attention and resonates often with me in a very personal way, as I too was married to a psychologically abusive man. Although thankfully he is not a pedophile, he is however a deeply damaged person who uses control, manipulation and threats to try and keep his weird and warped agenda together. After seeking the advice of experts, I now believe that he suffers from Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Like Clara’s husband John, in public my husband could not be more charming, charismatic and helpful. But look a little more closely and there are many red flags which should warn others of such dangerous personalities. This blog is really difficult for me to write as it brings up lots of emotional pain to the surface. But if my story, like Clara’s can help and educate other young men and women about the signs, then hopefully it will help people avoid or be able to get out of these highly damaging relationships much sooner than Clara and I were able to. We all deserve to live free and authentic lives, so trust your vibes people!”
Do you know how proud I am of this woman for getting the courage to not only read my blog, but to write some of her story? This took guts! It took inner strength! It took her everything! I doubt I will ever meet this lady, but I know one thing. She has a voice and she’s using it to speak out! And, this is how each of us will make a difference!
Her husband is not a pedophile like mine is, but he is an emotional abuser — a bully, and a man who controlled her to the point of fear. Not all emotional/psychological abusive people are pedophiles, but all pedophiles are emotional abusers.
It’s time to get better laws on the books. It’s time we speak out loud and strong and in big numbers to put an end to all abuse — physical, emotional, psychological, and abuse used by pedophiles — the entire gamut, including molesting our innocent children.
Will you help me in this mission? Help bring awareness to the forefront! Thank you so much for continuing to share the words written on this blog with thousands of others each day. We really and truly are making a difference. There will be a day when this horrible cycle of abuse is no longer tolerated!
Love,
Clara
PS The next post will continue on with my story: Married to a Pedophile: The Most Unusual Bible Studies